{"id":3010,"date":"2020-05-15T22:00:00","date_gmt":"2020-05-15T22:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/disciplestoday.org\/clone\/clone\/2020\/05\/15\/helping-a-friend-with-anxiety-or-depression-part-2\/"},"modified":"2023-06-02T07:06:43","modified_gmt":"2023-06-02T05:06:43","slug":"helping-a-friend-with-anxiety-or-depression-part-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/disciplestoday.org\/clone\/helping-a-friend-with-anxiety-or-depression-part-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Helping a Friend with Anxiety or Depression: Part 2"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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In Part 1<\/a>, I shared three ways to help your friend (or yourself) when you struggle with anxiety or depression. They were: 1) Be vulnerable , 2) Listen to understand , and 3) Ask well thought out questions.<\/p>

Today, I want to expand my thoughts on listening and how powerful this can be for all of us with any manner of struggles. <\/p>\n

\n Listening with Love <\/b>\n<\/p>\n

You would think, everyone knows how to listen. Not so. There is a difference between active and passive listening. Passive listening is hearing another person’s words but not actively engaging your heart. We can hear, but not listen. Too often we “highjack” the conversation back to ourselves. However, active listening is an engagement of our hearts with each other. Listening is an “art form<\/a>.” <\/p>\n

Think about your own conversations. Do you sometimes feel frustrated or discouraged that others will not listen to you? Do you walk away from a conversation feeling empty? Do you sometimes feel like no one really knows you? Perhaps we’re not all that good at listening as a society or an individual. <\/p>\n

\n To answer before listening\u2014 that is folly and shame<\/i>. \u2013 Proverbs 18:13\n<\/p>\n

The word “listen” is found 412 times in the Scriptures. Active listening is vital for any kind of recovery from mental health challenges. Not only mental health challenges, but just life itself. Listening is our way as humans to connect with each other. Listening is how we become known. Check out this article<\/a>. <\/p>\n

Think about God. When He wanted to make himself known what did He do? He speaks (and we listen) and He listens as we speak (prayer). Seems simple enough. But God listens in a way that He hears our hearts. He listens with intention and compassion and in a way that indicates He wants to know us intimately. And He answers, through His Word and the promptings of the Holy Spirit. <\/p>\n

Jesus, His Son is the same. Look at his interactions with the most hurting of his day. You get the sense that Jesus was fully present when others spoke. Jesus listened with his heart and then spoke words that healed. <\/p>\n

\n A voice came from the cloud, saying, \u201cThis is my Son, whom I have chosen; listen to him.<\/i>\u201d \u2013 Luke 9:35 \n<\/p>\n

We too, can become great listeners. Here is a challenge for you this week. Listen for ten minutes to someone else, without speaking (maybe a small question or a “tell me more” comment). Reflect back to them what you heard them say. Then ask a question that you think will move the conversation further along. See how long you can carry the conversation along. <\/p>\n

My friend John, told me this listening exercise revolutionized his relationship with his daughter. This simple exercise created a two-hour conversation that provided breakthroughs in their relationship and it will in yours also. Try it. <\/p>\n

In Part 3, I want to share how good conversation can lead to healing in our lives. <\/p>\n

The church setting is the the perfect place for recovery. Learn how to set up a Disciples In Motion weekend visit with Tim. It includes many different opportunities for mental health trainings in the church setting. Click here<\/a> for more information. <\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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