{"id":5259,"date":"2018-07-18T18:08:00","date_gmt":"2018-07-18T18:08:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/disciplestoday.org\/clone\/clone\/2018\/07\/18\/when-its-okay-to-tell-god-what-you-want\/"},"modified":"2023-08-23T19:23:54","modified_gmt":"2023-08-23T17:23:54","slug":"when-its-okay-to-tell-god-what-you-want","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/disciplestoday.org\/clone\/when-its-okay-to-tell-god-what-you-want\/","title":{"rendered":"When It\u2019s Okay to Tell God What You Want"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Confession: I struggle with the word surrender <\/em> . At least I struggle with the way some people use it. The way many Christians talk, it seems like surrender means we are supposed to achieve a Zen-like place where we no longer want…and no longer feel. We should be completely, perfectly happy exactly as we are. No wants. No needs. No regrets. No desires for the future. <\/p>

But honestly? I don’t see that definition—or that example—in the Bible. When I read the Psalms, I read heartfelt pleas from unhappy people begging God to change their circumstances. Wondering where He is in the wait. Thanking Him for what He has already given, yes; maintaining deep respect for His sovereignty, always (or maybe I should say usually!)—but not giving up on what they’re praying for. Not letting it go until God gives the final “No.” <\/p>

I don’t see David, living on the run from the murderous King Saul, praying, “Never mind, God. I know You told Samuel to anoint me as Israel’s next king, but don’t worry about it…I’m good. I’ll just live in caves as an outlaw forever. I surrender to being trapped in this situation.” <\/p>

I see David saying, <\/p>

How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever? How long will you hide your face from me? How long must I wrestle with my thoughts and day after day have sorrow in my heart? <\/em> (Psalm 13:1–2) <\/p>

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