{"id":5377,"date":"2018-05-14T22:22:00","date_gmt":"2018-05-14T22:22:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/disciplestoday.org\/clone\/clone\/2018\/05\/14\/wisdom-knows-tentative\/"},"modified":"2023-08-28T19:57:19","modified_gmt":"2023-08-28T17:57:19","slug":"wisdom-knows-tentative","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/disciplestoday.org\/clone\/wisdom-knows-tentative\/","title":{"rendered":"Wisdom Knows \u201cTentative\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Have you ever boldly espoused your opinion, only to realize that you were in fact wrong? Or, know someone who does this often? Wyndham has a phrase for this practice—“Often wrong, but never in doubt!” I find this happens most often in opinion and memory matters with statements such as: I absolutely know I left this on your desk. We turn right here. I’m sure. I have looked there. It is not there. You just need to let your child cry. They will definitely go to sleep. You need to not let them cry. They won’t go to sleep. If you take this supplement, it will cure you. It does this, and this, and this… If you eat this, it will kill you. You may have heard (or said) all of the above, spoken with absolute surety. There’s a scripture for this practice: “A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions.”<\/i> (Proverbs 18:2) In contrast, a wise person seeks to understand, and is prudent in airing his\/her opinions. There are things to which we should hold with absolute conviction. Truths about God and his word are at the top of this list. For these, we must be bold and unapologetic—even when these truths are in opposition to the culture of our world, which they are. However, in opinions (and even our memory which we can view as factual) Wyndham has taught me the value of speaking tentatively. We must be calm to be tentative. We must seek understanding to be tentative. We must be humble to be tentative. And we must be eager to keep peace in our relationships to be tentative. Yet, often we (I) can get “riled up,” sure of what we (I) think, and sure that our (my) memory is rock solid correct. I think of this word, “tentative,” often in my conversations. This nugget of wisdom has served me well. Wyndham and I have striven to implement this in our conversations for years. To remind us, we decided many years ago to exercise a habit that reminds us that we are not always right. When we discover we are wrong in something we have confidently stated we say (yes, out loud) to each other, “I was wrong and you were right.” It’s been a good practice. Let me define tentativeness by rewording the above statements. Read more…<\/a><\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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