TO THE LEADER OF THE STUDY (Tap to Expand)
To the leader of the study:
Honesty is a critical character trait to have as a teenager. One of the tendencies in the sinful nature of a teenager is to lie. Lying manifests itself in half-truths, exaggeration and deceit. The goal of this study is to free teens from the trap of lying and to help them see that honesty is absolutely God’s way (the more open you are about your life, the more open the teenager will be about theirs).
Discussion
1. Why do teens lie?
- Afraid of getting in trouble
- Want to look good in front of others
- Ashamed or embarrassed about something
(Leader of the study: Share some lies you’ve told and why you told them)
2. To whom do teens lie?
- Authority figures (parents, teachers, ministry leaders…)
- Friends
- Siblings
3. What do they lie about
- Performance (i.e. report cards, chores, Bible reading, homework…)
- Treatment of others
The goal of this study is to help you see that honesty is what God wants from
The Scriptures
Psalm 139:1-18, 23-24 (Tap to Expand)
For the director of music. Of David. A psalm.
1 You have searched me, Lord,
and you know me.
2 You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3 You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
4 Before a word is on my tongue
you, Lord, know it completely.
5 You hem me in behind and before,
and you lay your hand upon me.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain.
7 Where can I go from your Spirit?
Where can I flee from your presence?
8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10 even there your hand will guide me,
your right hand will hold me fast.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me
and the light becomes night around me,”
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
the night will shine like the day,
for darkness is as light to you.
13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts,a] God!
How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand—
when I awake, I am still with you.
V23-24:
23 Search me, God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
24 See if there is any offensive way in me,
and lead me in the way everlasting.
Name some things God knows about you. Why does it make sense, to be honest, all the time?
- God knows and sees when we even just think about lying.
- God knows and sees when we tell half-truths, when we exaggerate, when we’re deceitful, and when we lie.
Bottom line: God knows everything about us.
Lying to others instantly leads to lying to ourselves and ultimately, lying to God.
John 8:44 (Tap to Expand)
You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies
What can you learn from this Scripture?
- Lying is Satan’s language.
- Satan is the father of lies.
Bottom Line: Satan is behind every lie.
Mark 7:21-22 (Tap to Expand)
For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder, 22 adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly.
How would you define “deceit”?
- Shading the truth
- Not telling the whole truth, usually to make yourself or a situation look better
- Not saying what you are really thinking, not being open (giving answers like “Fine,” “okay” or “I don’t know” when you know there’s more in your heart).
Bottom Line: Saying what you are really thinking is very important because that’s the only way you can get the spiritual help you need to be able to change your heart.
Revelation 21:8 (Tap to Expand)
But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.”
God takes lying seriously!
Personal Heart Check Questions
1. When are you most tempted to lie?
2. Are you willing to change your life and be totally honest all the time?
Practical Applications
James 5:16 (Tap to Expand)
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
When you lie: Confess it to the person you lied to.
- Confess it to your parents/mentor.
- Tell them why you are sorry and why you want to change.
- Then, move forward joyfully because you did what was right before God.
Write out a half-page response about what you’ve learned from this study and some things you have done or will do differently because of this study.