(Purpose: To understand your role as a Christian Wife)

Genesis 2:24

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

  • Marriage is a wonderful plan of God .The goals is to remain united as one, for life.
  • Using the bible as the standard in marriage, we can attain and maintain our unity and love.
  • Sin is what separates us from each other, We need to work at getting sin out of our marriages, especially bitterness, so that we can remain close and be best friends
  • .Q. How would you want your marriage to be different?

Proverbs 31:10-31

  • This is the Blue print for the wife of noble character
  • V 10 Worth more than rubies
  • V 11 Husband has full confidence in her.
  • Q.Is there anything that you know your husband wouldn’t feel confident in? Spending, being reliable–letting your “yes” be “yes” etc?
  • V12 She brings him good not harm. As women we have the power to either make our husbands happy or miserable, confident or insecure. Everyday focus on and point out the good in him.
  • Take time to remember and write down all the reasons why you fell in love and married him.
  • V12 She provides for her family
  • V23 Husband is respected. Do your best to uphold him.

Ephesians 5:33

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

  • In this verse the Bible calls wives to respect their husbands and husbands to love their wives. Does this mean that a husband shouldn’t respect his wife and a wife shouldn’t love her husband? Of course not.
  • Q. So why do you think the Bible places the emphasis on these things? One possible answer is that it comes more naturally for men to respect than really express or show love and it comes more naturally for women to show or express love than respect. God is calling us to do what comes naturally but also focus on what does not.
  • Q. In what ways can you show your husband respect? i.e. by not disagreeing with him in front of others or your children. The tone in which we say things is very important in communicating respect to someone, and especially to our husbands. Ask your husband if he feels respected by you?

Proverbs 21:9, 19

Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife

Proverbs 21:19

Better to live in a desert, than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.

  • Q.Have you ever been around someone who nags a lot? How did it make you feel?
  • Q. Why do you think the Bible addresses wives specifically in this verse?
  • Q. Why do we nag?(trying to control, impatience, lack of respect, feeling unheard or unconsidered etc..)
  • Q. What things do you nag your husband about?
  • Nagging breaks intimacy and creates distance in our marriages..

Ephesians 5:21 – 25

  • The Bible calls us to submit to one another, but in these passages, it calls wives to submit to their husbands.
  • Q. When you hear the word “submit”, what do you think of and how does it make you feel? Why?
  • Culture has distorted the word submit, making it a bad word. Submission does not mean silence or to be a doormat. Submission does not mean wives are second class citizens, quite the opposite! In Genesis2:18 the Bible says that God would make a suitable “ezer” or helper suitable for Adam. It is the same word used66 times to describe God. It speaks of God’s strength, power, and protection, help, and being a rescuer. The Holy Spirit, is also described by Jesus as a “helper.”(John 14:16, 17)
  • The Holy Spirit, co-equal with God, is our advocate, advisor, counsellor, intercessor, consoler, comforter, and helper. Jesus is equal to the Father but chose to submit to the Father and become our Saviour. The Holy Spirit is equal to the Father and to Jesus, yet the Holy Spirit is our Helper. The trinity exhibits no rivalry, competition, or inferiority but are co-equal and fully God, working together to accomplish God’s will and plan. Marriage between a man and a woman is to model that kind of love.
  • God created both man and woman in His image. Men and women are equal, and in marriage, they take on different roles.
  • As Christian’s, we first submit to God then to our husbands.
  • Q. What would be some examples where it would be not be right to submit to your husband?
  • Q. What areas do you need to submit and accept his leadership in?

1 Corinthians 7:1 – 7

  • The Bible says that your body belongs to your husband and his body belongs to you.
  • The only reason the bible gives for saying “no” is by mutual consent and prayer. That is radical!
  • Q. Who has a great need for sexual intimacy in your marriage? (It is not always the men!)
  • Q. Have you had a conversation about both your needs, expectations and desires?
  • If this is an area where it is difficult to talk about maybe because of past hurts or unmet expectations. Get help. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Love making is a gift from God that builds connection. Satan wants to destroy it with fear and misunderstanding.

1 Peter 3:1-6

  • If your husband isn’t interested in becoming a Christian, how are you going to win him over?•Sit down and talk to your husband
  • Explain what is happening i.e. You becoming a Christian
  • Explain your commitment and ask for his support
  • Ask him in what ways he thinks you can change to be a better wife


  • God plan for marriage is beautiful
  • Sin is what destroys relationships and having clearly defined roles and responsibilities helps make marriages work in a fallen world.
  • Make every effort to be the wife God created you to be and pray for your husband to be that for you.
  • Seek lots of guidance and advice from older more experienced women (Titus2:4-8)